Building Rapport

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This week, we’re exploring a skill that’s often misunderstood as surface-level but is, in fact, foundational to trust, influence, and collaboration: Building Rapport.

It’s the art of being relatable without being rehearsed and the ability to create connection before needing cooperation.X

Years ago, during a high-stakes vendor negotiation, we were finalising a major contract. The discussion was tense, transactional, and on the verge of falling through. Then, something simple shifted the tone

One of our senior team members noticed a cricket bat in the vendor’s office background during a virtual call. He casually asked, “Club level or backyard legend?” The vendor laughed, replied “Both,” and suddenly the mood softened.

We spent the next five minutes talking about sport, growing up in regional towns, and childhood heroes. The conversation returned to business, but with new energy. We found common ground. The deal was signed the next day.

We often underestimate rapport as a "nice-to-have" rather than a professional differentiator. But rapport is the currency of influence. It lowers resistance, accelerates trust, and makes collaboration more fluid.

When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion.

— Dale Carnegie

Whether leading teams, managing clients, or aligning stakeholders - building rapport helps us meet people where they are, not just where we need them to be.

1. Notice and Mirror Tone Intentionally

Pro Tip: Pay attention to how others speak - their tone, pace, and choice of words - and subtly mirror it. It creates subconscious alignment and comfort.

2. Find Human Common Ground Early

Pro Tip: Begin conversations with a question that invites shared human experience - like a comment about the setting, a compliment, or curiosity about their role.

3. Listen for What’s Not Being Said

Pro Tip: True rapport comes from active listening. Watch for tone shifts, hesitations, and facial cues. Reflect back what we sense, not just what we hear.

4. Be the First to Share Something Real

Pro Tip: Vulnerability builds bridges. Share a small personal anecdote, challenge, or even a mistake. It signals that the space is safe for authenticity.

5. Stay Curious Beyond the Job Title

Pro Tip: People remember how we made them feel, not just what we discussed. Ask what excites them about their work, or what they’d change if they could.

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Building rapport isn’t about charm or charisma. It’s about presence, empathy, and intention. When we make others feel seen and heard, we open the door to trust, creativity, and collaboration.

People will forget what we said, forget what we did, but never forget how we made them feel.

— Maya Angelou

Let’s practise making others feel valued, because relationships are the foundation of everything that matters at work.

Until Next Time,

Abhishek
Founder & CEO, LegiQ | Building Intelligent Edge Hardware

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